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Wednesday
17
May
Visitation at Funeral Home
3:00 pm - 5:00 pm
Wednesday, May 17, 2023
Fredrick J. Chapey & Sons Funeral Home, Inc.
1225 Montauk Hwy
West Islip, New York, United States
Wednesday
17
May
Visitation at Funeral Home
7:00 pm - 9:00 pm
Wednesday, May 17, 2023
Fredrick J. Chapey & Sons Funeral Home, Inc.
1225 Montauk Hwy
West Islip, New York, United States
Thursday
18
May
Visitation at Funeral Home
11:30 am - 1:00 pm
Thursday, May 18, 2023
Fredrick J. Chapey & Sons Funeral Home, Inc.
1225 Montauk Hwy
West Islip, New York, United States
Thursday
18
May
Funeral Service
1:00 pm
Thursday, May 18, 2023
Fredrick J. Chapey & Sons Funeral Home, Inc.
1225 Montauk Hwy
West Islip, New York, United States
Private Cremation
In lieu of flowers
Save the Great South Bay
28 Village Line Rd.
Babylon, NY 11702
www.savethegreatsouthbay.org
Obituary
Thomas Eugene Calissi, 76, of West Islip, New York passed away on Sunday, May 14, 2023.
Tom was born on March 28, 1947 to Eugene and Clarice Calissi in Rockville Centre. His parents took him home to Seaford, New York where he lived for 25 years. Tom graduated from Seaford High School in 1965, was drafted into the Army in 1966, and served two years active duty at Fort Bliss Texas.
Tom went on to study business at Farmingdale State College and received his Bachelor’s degree in accounting from Hofstra University. After graduating with a degree in accounting, he started a job for the New York State Audit and Control Office as an auditor. He then moved on to work as an auditor for the town of Smithtown. He found his passion at the Attorney General’s Office as a forensic auditor, kickstarting a 30+ year career.
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In 1969, Tom met Rosemarie Taussig at the Embassy Diner in Bethpage, Long Island. Tom and Rose married on October 15, 1972 and went on to have 3 children, Jonathan (Barbara), Jennifer (Anthony), and Jason (Tracey) who gave him 6 grandsons, Connor, Kai, Caleb, Kolton, Nolan, and Joshua.
As a young man in his spare time Tom earned his pilot’s license and enjoyed taking his kids flying. Tom was an avid boater and a longtime member of the Power Squadron (America’s Boating Club) where, over the years, he earned 19 merit marks for his invaluable contributions. He earned his Captain’s and Advanced Pilot’s license and has boated all over the east coast. He liked working as a wood craftsman and later in life enjoyed sharing these skills with his grandchildren. Tom loved camping, snow skiing, water skiing, playing bocce ball, playing pool, drag racing, and video chatting with his grandsons.
In 2003, Tom retired and spent his time boating, traveling, playing cards, playing pool, meeting buddies for lunch, and enjoying his grandchildren. And he always loved having a good time with friends and family!
The wake will be held at The Fredrick J. Chapey & Sons Funeral Home in West Islip on Wednesday, May 17, 2023 from 3:00-5:00 pm and 7:00-9:00 pm. Servies will start Thursday, May 18, 2023 at 11:30 at The Fredrick J. Chapey & Sons Funeral Home.
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In lieu of flowers, the family requests donations be made in Tom’s honor to Save the Great South Bay (www.savethegreatsouthbay.org), an organization that actively works to restore and protect water quality in the Great South Bay, ensuring its waters are safe for swimming, fishing, and boating, and providing healthy habitats for fish, shellfish, birds, turtles, and other marine life thereby supporting our local economies and way of life, for us and for future generations.
Tom loved boating, clamming, swimming, skiing, and partying on the Bay. He raised his kids on the Great South Bay, met some of his best friends there, and made priceless memories. Tom would be happy knowing that his future generations will get to enjoy the Bay as much as he did.
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Joe T Pascale posted a condolence
Wednesday, May 17, 2023
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We are so sorry to hear of Tom’s passing, Thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Always enjoyed spending time with you both at Seaside and Monterey.
Joe and Bridgett Pascale
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Wednesday, May 17, 2023
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To Rose, Jenny, Jonathan, Jason and family. I am so saddened to hear of Tom's passing. I hold so many happy memories of times spent with Tom. I think of singing Meatloaf: Paradise by the Dashboard Light at the beach and everyone laughing with Tom, having a great time A generous host and a giving and caring friend. A terrific Dad and husband. I know he will be missed by many. Prayers that you are finding comfort in happy memories and knowing his life was well lived. Love, Dee Walters
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Tom and Carol lit a candle
Tuesday, May 16, 2023
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Tom was always a good friend you can count on. He was the party yet he was a sincere person. I’m at Tom at Atlantgue at fireIsland.
There are many of us met every weekend in the summer for many years clamming, fishing just having a grand old time enjoying the company of all his friends, family we had picnics, family gatherings
There all the kids all grew up together, enjoying the beach as much as we did. There was never a dull moment. Everyone always had a great time and one time I remember the time and I went skiing in New Jersey. Great Gorge Tom and I are on a ski lift together and there was a problem with the chair in front of us! The chair started to swing and the two people fell out. I said to Tom if we die or fall I hope you go first, so I can land on top of that you can break my fall he left, we made it through and I decided that was a good for the day. It was a terrible experience watching people fall from a chairlift.
Then one summer we decided to take all the boats around New York harbor from fire island It was a pleasant day going, but coming back we hit a massive storm. We all got through and everybody was kissing the ground when we got back.
Thomas was the Best Man at my wedding in 1991. He couldn’t believe I was getting married again throughout the years we were very close.
He will be truly missed, but never forgotten
As the saying goes thanks for the memories
Thank you
Tom And, Carol, Albanese
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Tuesday, May 16, 2023
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Debra Parkes posted a condolence
Monday, May 15, 2023
Sending condolences to the family of Thomas Calissi . I know Tom and Rose through my sister and brother in law. Thoughts and prayers to Rose and their children that they have the strength to get through these sad times.
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James M. Milton posted a condolence
Monday, May 15, 2023
We are deeply saddened by the news of the passing of P/Lt/C Thomas Calissi, Advanced Pilot. Tom was not just a member of America's Boating Club; he was a valued part of our squadron family. His dedication and involvement in our organization over the years have left a lasting impact. During his time with us, Tom served in various capacities, including as our Treasurer for three years. His commitment to America's Boating Club was unwavering, and he earned 19 merit marks for his invaluable contributions. Beyond his official roles, Tom's passion for boating was evident in his presence at our gatherings, where he could always be found manning the grill or shucking clams, spreading his infectious enthusiasm for fun.
With heartfelt condolences on behalf of the members of America's Boating Club of Great South Bay.
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